Is God Unreasonable When He Asks Us To Give Things Up?

I’ve been thinking about this question since hearing a sermon on it last weekend. It’s a question I’d settled in my own mind some time ago, but I realized there’s an argument for why God’s expectations are reasonable that I hadn’t considered before.

People often accuse God of being unreasonable, particularly in the context of His commandments. It can be hard to accept that God has the right to ask us to give up things we might want or that He’s being reasonable in those requests. For example, we need look no farther than the gospel accounts.

The young man said to him, “I have wholeheartedly obeyed all these laws. What do I still lack?” Jesus said to him, “If you wish to be perfect, go sell your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” But when the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he was very rich.

Matthew 19:20-22, NET

We don’t know exactly what was going on in this wealthy man’s mind or what he chose to do in response to Jesus’s statement, but we know that he was sad and that he walked away. He may, perhaps, have felt that Jesus’s instruction was unreasonable. If we were to ask Jesus, “What do I still lack?” there’s a very good chance He would give us a different response than to sell all our possessions, but I suspect it would be an equally challenging task.

The Sovereignty of God

For me, God’s sovereignty is the first of two things that settled the questions of whether or not God’s demands are reasonable. He created humanity, including me, and the entire universe. His laws are simply part of the way the universe is structured. He has the right to tell us how to live because He is in charge and it is good of Him to tell us how to live because He knows what we need to do in order to get the best outcome.

 You will say to me then, “Why does he still find fault? For who has ever resisted his will?” But who indeed are you—a mere human being—to talk back to God? Does what is molded say to the molder, “Why have you made me like this?” Has the potter no right to make from the same lump of clay one vessel for special use and another for ordinary use?

Romans 9:19-21, NET (bold italics mark a quotation from Isa 29:16; 45:9)

From the perspective that God has rights over what He created (including me), it was not terribly hard for me to make peace with things like not trying out for local theatrical productions because of performances and rehearsals on Friday evenings and Saturday. God has the right to designate certain days as holy and He wants me to keep His Sabbath, so I give up things that conflict with that. I grew up with the mindset that it’s just what you do and I never personally hit a point where I resented that. People in my church congregation would lose jobs, for example, because they wouldn’t work on Saturdays and that’s not something we compromise on. It always worked out in the end.

Jobs or hobbies that conflict with following Him are not the only thing God asks us to give up, though. He also asks us to give up revenge, inappropriate anger, selfishness, pettiness, bitterness, fear, and grudges. He asks us to give up any desires or actions that run counter to His laws. It is often much harder to bring your emotions and thoughts in line than your actions, though it is all closely connected, but God has the right to ask this of us.

We Owe Him So Much

The second thing that settled the question of “Is God unreasonable?” for me is thinking of all the things He has done for us. This really hit me years ago when I started the Bible studies which eventually led to my first ebook God’s Love Story (available free when you subscribe to my newsletter). In the universe that God created and under His laws, “the compensation due sin is death” (Rom. 6:23, LEB). The outlook would be very bleak for us imperfect humans if it stopped there, “but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom. 6:23, LEB). Jesus died in place of all who will accept His substitutionary sacrifice. Now, we are “the church of God that he obtained with the blood of his own Son” (Acts 20:28, NET). As such, we have certain obligations.

 Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20, WEB

People in the modern world, particularly Western culture, tend to think of “grace” as a free gift with no expectation that those who receive grace would do anything afterwards. It wasn’t that way in Biblical culture. Grace, the Greek word charis, was linked to relationships and carried relational expectations. It’s connected to covenants, the type of relationship that God makes with His people. Grace is freely given, but with the expectation that those who accept this gift have reciprocal obligations. We don’t try to pay God back for what He’s done (it would be impossible), but we are supposed to respond a certain way because we’ve received such incredible gifts from Him (salvation, forgiveness, hope of eternal life). Because I have a grace-based, covenant relationship with God, it is reasonable of Him to ask things of me and for me to respond by doing as He says.

God’s Level of Commitment

This third argument for why it’s reasonable of God to ask things of us is the one I hadn’t thought of before. Let us return, for a moment, to the story of the rich young man that we read at the beginning of this blog post. After the rich man walked away, Peter asked a question.

 Then Peter said to him, “Look, we have left everything to follow you! What then will there be for us?” Jesus said to them, “I tell you the truth: In the age when all things are renewed, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. And whoever has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life.”

Matthew 19:27-29, NET

When Jesus called His 12 disciples who would (with the exception of Judas Iscariot) become apostles, they gave up their former lives to follow Him. A tax collector and several fishermen became the students of a traveling rabbi because they believed He was the promised Messiah sent from God. Understandably, Peter wondered what the pay-off would be. But Peter and all of us who follow Jesus aren’t the only ones who gave something up.

You should have the same attitude toward one another that Christ Jesus had,
who though he existed in the form of God
did not regard equality with God
as something to be grasped,
but emptied himself
by taking on the form of a slave,
by looking like other men,
and by sharing in human nature.
He humbled himself,
by becoming obedient to the point of death
—even death on a cross!

Philippians 2:5-8, NET

To slightly paraphrase the sermon that inspired this topic, “Peter gave up a fishing boat, Jesus gave up a throne.” Now, you might reply to this point that it wasn’t the same for Jesus because He got to go back to His throne and become immortal God again, but that’s basically the same reward that’s awaiting Peter and all the other faithful believers as well. We’re not going to be exalted as high as Jesus, but we will be welcomed into God’s family and made co-heirs with Jesus Christ.

God is 100% committed to expanding His family and building relationships with His people that will last into eternity. Jesus emptied Himself to share in human nature and die for us. When He asks us to be fully committed to Him, even if that means giving up some things we might like to keep, He’s not asking more of us than He was willing to do.

As the sovereign creator, the one who paid a high price to redeem us, and a leader who doesn’t ask of us anything He hasn’t done Himself, it is reasonable for God to have expectations from us. Not only that, but these expectations are good for us. His purpose is to give us eternal life. When God asks us to devote our entire lives to Him, it’s a reasonable request and we can do so willingly when we shift our perspective to reflect the reality of who God is and what He is doing.

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