Over the past few weeks, it has become apparent from comments on this blog and Word Press’s statistics that my writings about INFJs, introverts, and personality type are by far the most popular. Even though it’s been two full months since I wrote Things You Should Know About INFJs, it gets more than twice as many views per week than the newer posts. Since INFJs are one of the personality types most likely to read about themselves and look for answers about how they think, I guess this shouldn’t be surprising.
Am I An INFJ?
If this is a question you’ve asked yourself, that’s a pretty good sign you’re an NF type. If we accept David Keirsey‘s ideas on personality type, NF Idealists are by far the most likely type to be searching for identity.
Do you know your Myers-Briggs type? How did you discover it and in what way, if any, has this knowledge affected you?
I discovered my personality type was INFJ after taking a free test based on the MBTI around the time I graduated high school. Since taking the official test wasn’t an option at the time, I tracked down several free versions online (here’s one that’s pretty good) to compare results. Then, I read many descriptions of INFJ types online and in books, and they fit me so well that I’m certain this type is correct.
Signs You’re An INFJ
Here are a few results I found while glancing over a forum on TypeologyCentral called “You know you’re an INFJ when…” It is 231 pages long, was started in 2008, and is still active. These are all quotes from the first two pages.
- You’re convinced you can make positive change for humanity happen if you just keep working on your vision…
- You’ve figured out that you don’t fit any other type well.
- Had a co-worker this summer tell me about her cheating on her husband. You know, after knowing her for all of a week. It seems like everyone wants to share any dark/weird stories with me.
- You can’t act on something you know logically is the right course of action until its ethically justified for you.
- You’re pretty sure something is a lost cause, but you have to try anyway for conscience sake.
To a certain extent, all these are true for me (the third one as a general principle — random strangers confiding weirdly personal things with little or no encouragement). The top points on my personal list are a little different, however. The following are typical of most INFJs, and ring especially true for me.
- Conflict is tremendously uncomfortable. Even tense moments are hard (especially, for some reason, while eating dinner)
- You have a well developed “rich inner world” and/or the feeling that you belong in a fantasy world rather than the real one
- It seems easy to pick up on other people’s emotions and mirror them while you are talking.
- You’re a spiritual/religious person who frequently ponders deep and/or abstract ideas
- You are fascinated by personality types and enjoy figuring out what other people’s types are
- There a struggle between needing to be around people so you can connect with them and share your thoughts, and an introvert’s desire for alone time
If you’re an INFJ, what would you add to this list? What convinced you this type is the one that fits you?
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