Thinking vs. Feeling in INxJ Personality Types

Because INFJs and INTJs both use Introverted Intuition as their favorite mental process, the two types can appear very similar. Quite a few people who take a Myers-Briggs test and get either of these results (or both on different tests) are left wondering, how can I tell whether I’m an INFJ and INTJ?

My personality type is INFJ and my sister’s is INTJ. It would be well-nigh impossible to assume we share a personality type, but if you don’t have that contrast living with you (or if you’re a little less extreme on your T/F preference) I can see how deciding which type is your best fit could be a challenge. INFJs and INTJs lead with the same mental process and they react in very similar ways when stressed out. The main differences between the two types have to do with how they handle their Thinking/Feeling preference.

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INFJs use auxiliary Extroverted Feeling as their copilot and support it with tertiary Introverted Thinking. INTJs use auxiliary Extroverted Thinking as their copilot and support it with tertiary Introverted Feeling. The auxiliary process is how they prefer to make decisions and interact with the outer world, but they can slip into their tertiary quite easily. It’s not as well developed or as reliable, but it can seem comfortable since it’s introverted (just like their dominant intuitive function).

How comfortable each INFJ/INTJ is with their thinking and feeling processes depends on a number of factors, including age, environment, and past experiences. You can find INFJs who are very people-oriented and social, or INFJs that seem distant and logical. Similarly, you’ll meet INTJs who are stereotypically blunt and calculating, and INTJs who are comfortable experiencing their own emotions. Even so, the way these functions shows up looks different for each type.

My Cup of T

An INTJ’s Thinking side is focused on the outer world. It’s also the function they’re most comfortable using when making decisions. While mature, well-balanced INTJs will take the human side of a question into consideration, it’s typically secondary to finding the most logical, fact-based solution. Personality Hacker calls this mental process “Effectiveness” and says it “focuses on impersonal criteria for making decisions” and prioritizes efficient problem solving.

INFJs, on the other hand, use an inward-focused Thinking process and they’re not usually as comfortable with it as they are with their Feeling side. Personality Hacker calls Introverted Thinking “Accuracy” and says this function gives users “the ability to reason through a subject or concept within one own’s understanding, even if it doesn’t match ‘outer world’ data.” Basically, this process is trying to work through things until they make sense.

INTJs are much more likely to express their Thinking judgements externally than an INFJ. They’ll often seem more blunt and direct because efficient communication is more important to them than worrying another person’s feelings. INTJs are also more likely to draw on objective, external facts to support their ideas. They want their ideas to work and they want outer world validation for their problem solving. That’s not nearly as important to INFJs, who need things to make sense personally more than to the people around them.

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Feeling The Feels

An INFJ’s Feeling side, like INTJ Thinking, is the function they use most comfortably when making decisions. It’s also outward focused, but it’s primarily people-oriented. Personality Hacker nicknames this function “Harmony” because it “makes decisions based on how things are impacting people on an emotional level.” The key thing to remember about this function is that it’s outward focused. INFJs are more in touch with other people’s feelings than they are their own.

INTJs use a Feeling process that’s introverted, which Personality Hacker calls “Authenticity.” While it’s also concerned with how decisions impact on an emotional level, it’s focused on one’s own emotions rather than other people’s. To again quote Personality Hacker, “Introverted Feeling is about checking in with all those inner parts and voices to determine what feels the most in alignment with oneself.” Somewhat ironically, the stereotypically cold and logical INTJs are often much more in-tune with their own feelings than the stereotypically emotional INFJs.

INFJs are more comfortable expressing feelings in the outer world and also more likely to pick-up on what other people are feeling. They’ll typically seem much more empathic and expressive than an INTJ. An INFJ who’s comfortable with their Extroverted Feeling side will also appear more social and “extroverted” than a typical INTJ. But INTJs are far more in-tune with their own emotions than most people (and many type descriptions) will give them credit for.

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INxJs In Real Life

Even after you know about the technical differences between the ways INFJs and INTJs use thinking and feeling, you might still wonder they show up in real life. Let me give you some quick examples.

  • When making an everyday decision — an INFJ’s first impulse will be finding what makes as many people as possible happy, while an INTJ’s first impulse will be quickly finding the most logical answer. For me and my sister at least, the INTJ has a much easier time making simple decisions without overthinking them than the INFJ does.
  • In a stressful/emergency situation — I’m the one who’s in logic mode and my INTJ sister is the one indecisive and unsure. We’re talking something that calls for quick action and is stressful enough to push you out of your most comfortable mental processes (such as deciding to take someone to the hospital), Might not hold true for every INFJ or INTJ, but it’s an interesting observation I’ve made.
  • If asked to change their minds — an INTJ is most likely going to stick with what they’ve already decided because they know their idea is based on logic and that it feels right to them. To change their mind, you’ll need to present a fact-based counterargument that matches their deeply held beliefs about what’s right. A confronted INFJ will second-guess themselves because now they know someone isn’t happy with what they chose but they’ll also be reluctant to abandon something that makes sense to them. To change their mind, you’ll need to present an argument that hits emotion as well as logic.

I hope this helps you with telling the difference between these two types If you can’t tell if you’re an INFJ or and INTJ, looking at the differences in Thinking and Feeling functions is a good place to start figuring out your type. You’re not going to be a perfect 100% fit for every description of any one personality type, but there should be one that’s a “best fit” for your personality.

Your Turn: What are some differences and similarities you’ve noticed between INFJ and INTJ types?


14 thoughts on “Thinking vs. Feeling in INxJ Personality Types

  • I find the Myers-Briggs system interesting in terms of describing and helping me observe. Although, I admit not knowing much about it. I think I’m an INTJ, but it was a while ago that I took an internet-based quiz. Can’t vouch for the quality of it.

    There are two things I wonder about. First, in terms of biblical, godly love, how much does this matter in the end? That really is a matter of curiosity and nothing else.

    The second is, how much does this change over time? And especially as it may include exposure to emotional abuse, as it does in my case. It has been life-long, and covert. So, I wonder what would my personality be like without it? Will anything of what I ‘really am’ or ‘really was’ pop out at times, or is that not even something that changed anyway?

    You don’t need to go into a deep explanation… I am just curious.

    Hope your Memorial Day is a good one!

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    • I’ve had some people ask why personality type even matters from a Christian perspective, and my response usually is that I believe God created different personalities for a reason. Just as He gives different spiritual gifts, so we have different personalities and natural tendencies. Perhaps (since we’re made in His image) we all get to reflect different aspects of His personality. And I also think knowing someone’s type can help you understand them and maybe make loving them easier (though we should, of course, show godly love regardless of personality type).

      Most people who study Myers-Briggs will tell you that people don’t switch between different personality types. An individual’s type develops early in life (as some combination of genetics and environment) and they’ll keep that type their whole life. But how any given type shows up in an individual will vary depending on a number of factors, including something like abuse. As far as I know, there haven’t been many (if any) studies on how abuse or serious trauma affects type development. But I have seen people talk about how their journey of healing from abuse involved discovering that they’re a different type than they originally thought because they’d been suppressing sides of their personality that would have been more dominant if they’d been allowed to use them.

      Thanks so much for your comment! These are exactly the sort of questions I find very intriguing 🙂 And I hope you’re having a good Memorial Day, too

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  • I’m an INTJ and my wife is an INFJ. I agree with the everyday decision making vs the emergency decision making. Which I’ve only just noticed since you pointed it out. If it’s an emergency that involves someone I care about, I’m a mess and panic until I’ve had time to think on it. My wife is the opposite, she’s calm and rational. However, if the emergency does not involve someone that I care about, the solution seems to come easily, although I will still be a lot more stressed about it than my wife. How I act in an emergency annoys me and I wish I could be more like my wife in those situations.

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    • Thanks for commenting! It’s interesting to learn panicking during an emergency involving people you care about isn’t just something my sister does. Maybe it is an INTJ tendency


      • I am sort of in between INTJ and INFJ, and I do very well under pressure. Even during crisis situations. I was in a car accident last year and I was more focused than I had ever been in my life immediately following it.

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  • My edit of your fine start:
    When making decisions, Thinkers focus on objective facts. If possible, they wish to understand relevant underlying principles. Logical, objective consistency helps them be accountable to their values.

    When making decisions, Feelers focus on how outer changes will affect feelings, their’s and other’s. Maintaining interpersonal connection and harmony helps them align with their values, personal and social.

    Adapted from


    • As I pointed out in this post, it really depends on whether they’re using an Introverted or Extroverted form of the Thinking/Feeling process. Your descriptions are more consistent with extroverted forms of each function.

      You’re right that Thinkers prefer logical consistency. But Introverted Thinkers (TP types) are much more subjective about what they consider a fact, while Extroverted Thinkers (TJ) are more likely to look to external sources for verifying their ideas. Also, understanding the underlying principles behind an idea is just as much an Intuitive thing as a Thinker thing (if not even more so).

      For Feelers, interpersonal connection and harmony is much more important to Extroverted Feelers (FJ). Introverted Feelers (FP) will be more concerned about lining up with their core inner values. My ENFP boyfriend and I are good examples of this. As an FJ, I’ll often make decisions that line up with what other people expect/want. As an FP, he’s much more concerned with making decisions line up with his personal values, regardless of social expectations.


  • Whenever I take the Myers-Brigg I tend to be sort of in the middle for N/S and F/T. I think I’m in between INFJ and INTJ. I read the descriptions for both of these and my personality is these two overlapped.

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    • It’s not unusual for the test results to fluctuate, so I usually encourage people to read descriptions and study functions to find their best-fit type. Sounds like that could still go either way for you, though. Interesting — you must be really well-balanced in how you use your Thinking and Feeling sides 🙂

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      • Sorry I’m replying so often, but this is pretty revelatory for me! I find that I’m constantly struggling between my thinking and feeling sides, almost like they’re in combat with one another. My thinking side wins slightly more, but it doesn’t stop me from feeling things really strongly.

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    • Hello Emzelf,

      I have also taken several online tests and always end up as an INTJ, INFJ or sometimes even an INxJ.
      I have read the descriptions of both types very carefully and I am still not sure which one corresponds the best. What I have remarked however is that it tends to change according to the area involved. For example when I consider my emotional life I can most easily relate to the INFJ. When I look at my carreer and the things I want to achieve in my life I identify more as an INTJ.

      When I read the article above concerning how an INxJ acts in everyday decisions and in stressfull situations I relate more to the INFJ side. When it comes to changing my mind I can be rather stubborn, not unlike the INTJ.

      I don’t know if you have noticed similar tendencies when trying to figure out which type you are?



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      • Yeah, I noticed the same. It’s been awhile and now I think I’m more an INTJ because I don’t deal with my feelings very well. I tend to suppress them but I still feel it intensely. Occasionally I act like an INFJ when I’m really comfortable. Yes I noticed the same thing. I’ve been using the enneagram personality instead because it leaves more wiggle room for little things that don’t fit into the box.

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